Analyzing your mom in order to fully understand her obvious deficiencies would likely be quite a project and maybe even impossible, but please hear my full agreement that you are not the problem and that your own right thoughts and actions in the face of her horrible ones are to be commended. I am an old man who knows nothing about being a young girl, but you do not have long to go before you can emancipate yourself from there and everyone who possibly can will support you all along the way.