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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
This whole concept of texting all day long is stupid. Is this now a thing to do?
To me, it's the same thing as talking for way too long on the phone. The reason why it is bad is the same as I've told you before. It has you both running out of things to say before you ever even get to have your first date! You both will get bored of each other very quickly as you will run out of things to say.
Also, the thrill of constantly hearing that little ping of a message on your phone, feeling constant attention from him, cannot possibly continue as people have lives and are busy, plus you will run out of things to say. What can you possibly say all day in texts with someone? Now I am on the toilet... now I am washing dishes... did I tell you about the time I...?
Save your pearls for when you are on the dates with him.
So, as for when you should text him back... I'd say just don't. I'm sure he will text you again since he is interested. Then put this back on track by not doing the constant text thing. Tell him you are looking forward to you date and keep the texting brief. Otherwise, you may never get to that date one week from now.
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Well, in my own defense, we talked all day yesterday about various things, and it all felt natural. No, the bathroom didn't come up in our conversation, nor did washing the dishes. I do understand giving each other space, but I really feel attracted to him. We would talk on the phone, but A.) he has a job, and B.) we both have an aversion to talking on the phone in general.
It's just, I am a people pleaser deep down, and when I like a person, I want to do things to make them happy. I want him to know that I wasn't trying to be rude or disinterested last night when I didn't reply, but that I fell asleep.
I do get not wanting to come off as overly clingy/needy/eager but I don't want to seem disinterested either. I also want to just be myself, because I want him to like me for me. It's all so complicated!!
I'm going to wait till about 11 or so to reply to his text and explain that I fell asleep. That, to me, sounds appropriate.