I like J too, the way your describe her. I also have a part that is similar to her. It's a 12yo part that came forward, very angry. That part would be like a part that "woke up" and was ready to make right of the wrongs that have happened. She now has much compassion for the younger parts that are now being found. The 12yo was one of the first parts of me that came forward. I'm very thankful for the moment I saw her take my hand. Don't really have words to explain that. That is the part that now volunteers to help smaller/younger parts feel safe and not alone.

There is a part of me that I am trying to reach right now. It's a sad part, that is covered by anger and tempered with compliance. It's a part that wishes and longs for what was not. There feels like confusion and struggle trying to connect with that part. Journaling and listening, I believe, are the answer. It just takes a bit of time. Prayer helps tremendously.

The parts that come out, at first feel like they want to be so self sufficient. It's like they have to figure this out and make it right by themselves. It's been discovered that that is not really a good way to look at it.

What do you find to be the best way to reach a part that is in distress or hurting - confused?