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Originally Posted by ruh roh
Hi Rainbow, I'm glad you know that your therapist didn't ask you to think deeply all week long about wanting to know about her boyfriend. And I don't see that she was being invalidating by bringing your session back to you. She's been pretty consistent throughout. I laughed about the George Clooney part because it made me think she's got her own transference issues, but it's good that she thinks he looks like a movie star and not, say, a bloated and aging politician. It wasn't the best thing for her to say that to you, but on balance, it's not a sign of bad therapy.
I agree with @@...chalk it up to a bad session. They feel like crap, but they happen. I have had them, and they don't feel survivable. But seeing that they are survivable, and stasis is restored, is helpful in and of itself.
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Thanks, ruhroh. It's possible he DOES look a little like George Klooney. I don't see why not. Yeah, it was a bad session but it's over. I can move on.
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Originally Posted by Echos Myron
I don't disagree that the therapist generally seems patient and seems to work well with rainbow. But I find it troubling that her boundaries have been quite confusing and contradictory (think about why/don't tell me why and I'm not going to talk about it/he looks like George Clooney). I don't feel comfortable with rainbow blaming herself for something she didn't do.
Atat has a great point that the two of you need to work together to get back on the same page. I think part of that must be developing a dialogue about what's happening and hopefully a responsiveness by your therapist to be open to accepting that she has upset you by contradicting herself. Sometimes bumps in the road can strengthen the relationship too.
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Thank you. I'm not sure my T has totally contradicted herself. Idk. I'm feeling better about it because I liked her email. I don't feel so upset anymore.
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Originally Posted by BayBrony
Im a little confused.
Were the questions you were reading that she did not want to hear questions you'd journaled asking yourself why you wanted to know about T's BF. Like " i am asking myself if i want to know because i am still mourning my marriage"
Or were they questions about the BF, like "what does he look like"?
I wasn't sure from the OP and i guess to me my judgement of T's decisions is pretty dependant on what the questions actually were.
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The questions were about her and her bf, like, does she love him, how is he different from her ex, things that are too personal. I wasn't originally planning to read them out loud anyway. T DID listen to my answer as to how it came into my mind that I wanted to know. I said because it seemed natural, that our session was lighter than usual, and it seemed like we were friends. So I asked. I didn't think it would be a big deal. She doesn't think it would help me, and that's also her boundary. I understand her reasoning. I think she was just too abrupt and that was what triggered me. I'll tell her that when I see her next, I think.