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Originally Posted by connect.the.stars
I've already graduated college and been working full time for two years. I'm studying for a four part license exam that is really difficult to pass. Each part has passage rates of 40-45%. I'm currently scheduled to take two parts the first week of January. I've been studying after work and on weekends for 30 hours a week for about a month straight now on top of the usual 40 hours of work.
My parents expectations of me are that I pass every part on the first try. That I don't let any distractions stray me away from studying. And that I don't waste time.
I am 24, which is probably past the age of independence.. my parents are Asian.
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I am sorry your parents keep making demands on you and continue to tell you what to do. Sometimes this is a cultural thing where parents are trained to believe they know what's best for their child at any age. Parent's like this can get stuck in a "role playing" mentality and as you are discovering for yourself, this is only frustrating you and hurting you because you are at a point in your life where "you" want to make your own decisions.
It's common that a parent/parents get used to telling their child what to do and it can become a habit that can get to a point where the child at any age can become very frustrated to the point where they want to get away from that parent's control.
What you are experiencing in your being frustrated is actually "healthy". You don't want your parents to run you life for the rest of your life. Your frustrations mean you are really ready to be on your own. This last bit where you are probably living with them because of finances and that you need to get this last part over with sounds like it's clearly frustrating you. Well, I doubt you are going to change your parents at this point. Instead, the best thing to do is recognize this as being "their" pattern of behavior that won't change and it has nothing to do with your true "self worth".