I have a tendency to keep editing. I don't write a paper very well from the first draft because I know I will do some editing. But after 2-3 revisions, I submit the paper, even if the deadline is a month ahead, because otherwise I'll keep editing, and it's exhausting for me mentally. I do this constantly here. It takes me very long to write posts. I think that you are more likely to have ASD than ADHD. You mentioned you partner's mother do research on the topic. Could she know if you have ASD? Also you mentioned social anxiety. How anxious are you around people?