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Originally Posted by continuosly blue
Wow.........This is something that I could only dream of. A letter where my wife admitted
the things that she did to ruin our marriage. She NEVER took responsibility. Never apologized for what she did to me and how much she hurt me in the same ways you hurt your ex.
Always the victim. We are in the process of reconciliation but I will NEVER get a letter like you wrote. I have to accept that she just can't do it.
I know one thing , and that maybe in time he will realize what he is letting go.
One thing though , always being willing to take him back puzzles me as to how you can move forward. I can't see how your current boyfriend can be too happy about knowing you would leave him at a moments notice if your ex wanted back with you.
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I definitely understand the question at the end... I can't take him back at a moments notice. He isn't even the person I wrote this to anymore. He changed on his own, or became the person he was hiding the whole time... I'm not sure which. But my SO understands what's happened, and I actually wrote the letter before he and I were more than friends.
I can't say that I'd go back to my ex anymore... but I can't say I'd *never* go back to him. I just wouldn't end my relationship with my SO to go back to him, at least not without a very legitimate reason, which I can't see happening.
Maybe someday my ex will actually read this, and regret the missed opportunity to patch things up. I don't wish for him to have any more regrets, though. I do care about him. Again, he's just different, in a scary way. I can barely recognize my ex from his personality anymore. My SO understands, and I think he's glad to be with me for the reasons you stated at the beginning of your reply... I actually understand the role I played, and stopped playing the victim. I think I can carry what I learned into my relationship with my SO.