I don't have out-of-session contact with my T and this hasn't been an issue. I do know what it's like, though, to leave a session feeling profoundly alone with your problems. There's something about the juxtaposition of total support in session to no support outside of it that serves to throw one's "alone-ness" into relief. It's a truly awful feeling.

I'm sorry you're struggling, OP. For me, it just sort of got better, slowly but surely, over time. I don't know what the answer is. Best of luck with everything.