I felt that way before I was finally able to financially leave my bad marriage. It scared me when I really did see that RED in one of my angry outbursts when I had enough of his crap. I had been financially trapped in the bad marriage so I can totally relate how financial issues & debt can trap you in places you don't want to be.

Wish I had a good solution but in reality we just have to work our way through it, make wise decisions not to get deeper in debt because no matter how good of a job it doesn't make up for the debt incurred. Finding a job with educational help might be a better thing to search for.

I ended up being able to sell my moms house after she died. That was my only way for escape & I feared when I went looking for a home far away that if I didn't get something I would end up stuck in the trap & all the money would be frittered away. He is still destroying my credit because my name is still on the loan on the house we owned together & divorce doesn't fix that problem.

I am so sorry you are going through this especially working so hard & seeing nothing for all that work. I understand the frustration & the ANGER