I didnt know it was menopause. I had just gone through a trauma cauching & confronting the home care person abusing my mom that ended up in a life threatening situation. The stress of it all triggered my anorexia to flare up & take over so my periods had stopped anyway.

My mom died soon after from the cancer. I finally got her house cleared out & sold & used that money to escape my own bad marriage.

I ended up moving 2100 miles away to where I didnt know anyone. Weather was hot & humid big difference from the hot DRY Calif desert I had lived in so many years. I would start to sweat & blamed it on the weather not hot flashes though I finally figured it out. They lasted for maybe a year.

I was now living alone, making huge decisions & honestly for the first time away from stressful people my whole life, my brain was finally free from all thst crap it was able to start thinking clearly. Easier to learn....it was like I was catching up for 54 years of my life while also going through menopause. I didnt have much time to focus on me with all that was going on in my life & next thing i knew, no more hot flashes.