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Originally Posted by ruh roh
I want to get my hair cut short like a boy but I don't know where to find a good hair person that won't make it look like crap. I saw one stylist who said it was like the others I'd seen wanted to make me look ugly. Going to see those people is always traumatic. Everything they say comes out as an insult.
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You have no idea how much I sympathize with this.
What's worked for me is to find queer stylists (not necessarily in a queer salon) or to ask other queers for recs -- one of my stylists was a trans woman (absolutely fantastic and I think I crushed out on her big time in large part coz here was someone who understood me instantly after years of my dealing with gawdawful idiots) and my current stylist is a jaded, totally silent gay man who completely "gets" what I want hair-wise and has little to say except for some mutual eye-roll bonding brought on by the occassional acerbic comment on the goings-on with the local queers.
To get to this point though, I went through years (no exaggeration) of dealing with stylists who'd either mess it up big time while treating my request like it's some alien / awful thing or tell me nonsense (this mostly from men) on how I'm "so pretty" and so why do I want to cut my hair short in a way that apparently makes me ugly
Before moving to my current town, I finally found a (straight male) stylist (on the rec of another queer) and he was fantastic -- I'd drive 250 miles each way to get my haircut coz the folks I'd tried out in my current town were just awful. Until of course I met my current one and the one before him.
ETA: As much as it sucks, if you can, go to the queer-friendly place -- the relief is palpable I promise.