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Originally Posted by Vert
I'm not sure how to handle this one.
We been together 2 years. He left once before he seem like he was depress than. Few months after he reached out and said there's nobody like me and he will never let me go again... We than spend many months without any major issues. We barely ever argue over anything.
So now out of a sudden his entire self changed. His been diagnosed for years and been to hospital for Manic Bipolar with Schizoprenia but I had yet experienced this part of him.
I've started to notice behaviors changes and he than started to open up to me about spiritual awakening and how as soon as he gets this experience his family send his to the hospital and how he does not want to go.
He would talk to me all night, for hours about spirituality and trying to help me better myself like him.... Than one morning after an amazing evening he wakes up and tell me I need to purge the pain to awaken like him and to help me with this he was leaving me. So he broke up!
During that period the first few day's we still hung out and the last time he was really mean to me for no reason and quick me out. A week pass and I nicely reached out to me and again he got extremely hurtful. So I didn't reply to his nasty message.
I've been in touch with his family and come to understand he took EVERYONE out of his life one by one and basically had nobody left. So sure enough he reaches out to me and ask me to talk. So I go over and for hours he tells me what everyone did to him and why he took them all out and how I was the only one that ever had his back.
Well I'm not sure what he wants from me, he definitely needed to get all that out of his chest. He asked me to stay over and hugged me good bye in the morning and thank me for coming. I'm not sure where we stand and I don't even know if I should contact him or wait for him to contact me again.
What is the do and don't in a situation like this? I don't want to say anything that will make him push me away again.
It was like sitting with someone else, I don't recognize him at all 
HELP |
First thing first hang in there i feel you,going to just express my personal opinion.
An relationship with a BPD is an emotional roller coaster which one moment he loves you the other he hates you,you can try as much as you want to really help him,but you can't really help someone who refuses to get help(which includes professional help),after some time his insecurities will be your insecurities,your self esteem will get low you will get more hurt,they get trapped by the love we give.
Once again it's really hard to disconnect from people we care and we love,it's up to you,but trust me you can't change him neither help him,you might help him for a short period of time until the cycle repeats itself once again,your going to get hurt tired and emotionally wrecked.
This cycle will go on and on until you allow it,if you can fight through it and just let him go that would be the best case scenario for you you deserve better.
Again this is my personal opinion i'm no professional i'm just talking from experience,he wants to drag you on the same cycle,hope this helps peace love and happiness