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Old Feb 09, 2017, 11:59 PM
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Originally Posted by justafriend306 View Post
I do think it possible.

I think perhaps this might be a case of seeking the comforts of having such positive experiences at home. You are away from that and the strings must still be pulling at you.

How were your relationships outside of family while growing up? Did you make friends with your peers easily? Were you - gotta ask - awkward then or perhaps a loner? Did you have opportunity to develop relationships and gain skills?

I have advised people before that perhaps observation is the best tool in such situations. Watch the people around you for how they carry themselves socially - especially their non-verbal comunication. Gaining confidence in your own social interractions I think would result in them becoming healthier, reducing your need to 'latch' on as you have indicated, and becoming more comfortable with the down time between interractions, and strengthen those you have.
Thanks for replying to my post. I actually realized that I've had a constant pattern of forming close friendships with people and having them taken away. For example, in fifth grade, I told this girl she was my best friend, and she moved away the following summer. The exact same situation happened the following year. Also, in seventh grade, I had joined a new group of girls, and one of them suddenly started hating me and went behind my back and told the other girls to kick me out. This is probably why I don't trust peers my age, but I'm fine with family and very close friends who have proved their loyalty to me.