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Originally Posted by Cyllya
In my search for other coping techniques, this is the best I've been able to come up with:
--The problem is less bad after I come home from work. I think it's because this is a point of transition, but I'm not transitioning to anything in particular. (I have to plan ahead to use this time effectively.)
--It's easier to do things after they become a habit or routine.
--"Cueing" -- it can be helpful to have someone or something tell you to start. (That is, something external triggers you to start, even if you already know about the task and don't need a reminder.)
This page has everything I know about the problem (not much). |
I also have an easier time with things that come back, I think it is because I haven't yet forgotten them and no need to relearn, so the task becomes less complex. I have a really really hard time making my own routines but I try like a little at a time because if I try too much I just revert back and stop the routine. Like right now (I know it sounds like a ridiculously small task), I try to always fill up a wash of dishes in the machine and have as little "outside" dishes as possible. When I do it so much, just the putting them in is easier because I remember how to do it so I can do it more automatically.
I also have a cleaning day but I have only been able to incorporate the most important cleaning and because it is the same every time almost, it becomes easier. But when it comes to do the once in a while cleaning that is really hard like my vents are full of dust and the kitchen shelf items are like all sticky dust. IDK how to even force myself to do those.
I use external triggers for the cleaning day so that I "must" do it. It really helps.
But I have a hard time knowing how to create others for other activities. Sometimes the trigger is just time, like now I HAVE to pay bills because they need to be paid now.
I also piggyback on my friend like if she says she needs to shop or go to the pharmacy (she likes company), I borrow her energy and go with her and do my stuff. It just annoys me because it's not hard really to go to the pharmacy on my own, it doesn't even take 10 minutes walking there!
I tend to procrastinate, maybe I don't even have to say that, LOL.
People say I am stubborn and have managed many hard things, but when it comes to everyday life things I am so not stubborn!