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Old Feb 28, 2017, 04:33 PM
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Originally Posted by JennaWadde99 View Post
For some reason it takes me a while for significant things to process in my mind and react to them.fo instance when my mom passed away I din't cry at all then years later it hits me and I occasionally burst into tears.

another one that surprises is when I gave a number to a work college who works different department from me that I was interested in.He didn't call/text but gave a lame excuse as to why he didn't and blew me off.It didn't faze me at that time while he was till working the same shifts from mine.He subsequently got a different position and started working opposite shifts from me so we don't see ach other anymore.Now months later,I feel very embarrassed about the whole thing to a point where I don't think I can make eye contact if I were to run into him

Is this normal?
for some people yes its normal and for others no its not normal ... in me it is normal. I have a whole life time of situations where I have taken minutes, hours, days and sometimes months and years to process and react to things. in my native american culture children are taught to think before you speak, look at everything before letting emotions control actions. so children in my culture learn at a very young age to not react, to think about whats going on and then use words not just react. a child in my culture may cry months or years later associated with a death but the child also can state they are crying because they miss that persons physical presence in their life. my point in my culture even though its an emotional reaction after the fact, no matter how long it takes for the reacting to happen children understand how and why they are reacting that way.

example...one of my childrens teachers stated at the parent teacher conference that it may be a week later but its very clear when something bothers my children. apparently my child had a problem with how the teacher worded something they stated to my child. A week and a half later during recess my child walked up to the teacher and stated her views on what was said. when the teacher asked her why she didnt come to her when the situation happened my child stated.. "I was taking time to think before speaking, I think more people should do that too, what do you think?" the teacher laughed and told her "I agree" then my child went off to play with her friends.

yes sometimes it is normal for people to think / process before reacting.

to find out if its normal for you, you will need to contact your own treatment providers who can answer that based on your own directly related problems and such.
Thanks for this!
JennaWadde99