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Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006
What I want to comment on is the weirdness of "paying you" as making amends to those things. Did they steal from you? Did they damage your property? Is there anything tangible to connect the dollar amount to? Because even though you say it's not as if they are paying you as a friend for hire, it still seems on their end it's them using money to manipulate you.
They used it initially to make peace with you, instead of a mature manner and making real amends, emotionally, intellectually dealing with what the offenses were.
then when they decided you were still angry (they couldn't fend off your anger with money) they decided to cancel the check because it didn't work anyway and so now they are manipulating you further by saying "if you won't stop being mad at you I'm punishing you by not giving you the money"
If you were angry about the money itself, you shouldn't be. You should be more angry at the fact that they are manipulative and you probably did the right thing by ending it.
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Oh, the original problem happened months ago. And they eventually apologized. Admitted wrong, etc. A few weeks ago when they sent this money, it was because (I believe) they were feeling exuberant, and overly jovial, and because (according to them) I had just bought a car, they wanted to help me out a little, they believed in the past I might have overpaid for something so they wanted to "restore the balance" some how and because they had acted bad towards me in the past.
They punished me because they thought I spoke to them rudely. In truth, it was two short texts. One a questions, and one an "Ok. Well, let me know." And how my "speaking to them" was too terse and mean to them I'll never know. But I felt like I'd been toyed with, punished, etc.
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Originally Posted by cielpur
This person is a toxic waste to your zen garden. My question is, what did you get from knowing this person? How did they add to your life? What did you benefit from knowing this person as long as you did?
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I got a lot out of knowing them.. There was a human being I could share things with, and vice versa. They weren't always like this.
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Originally Posted by starrysky
 it sounds like this person wasn't treating you well, and you got fed up. It's natural to miss someone and the way they used to be. But it sounds like they changed. |
Thanks for saying this. This is what bothers me most of all! This is what has had me more sad than anything.
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Originally Posted by divine1966
First of all this person obviously isn't wealthy. People who shuffle money between accounts so bad that they don't even have $500 aren't rich . I am not rich but I certainly never didn't have 500 on my account.
Second of all people with no money in the bank shouldn't be sending people checks! He sends checks but then warns people that it will bounce? Gee
Third of all this person pays people for friendship?
And finally why do you want to be friends with this rude person?
The whole situation is just too bizarre. Time to move on
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Your post made me laugh because it was so straight forward. That's a good thing. Trust me.