One of the most frustrating situations that one can confront to modern date is a lack of empathy. It is not all too uncommon for others to claim their concerns in word but to never follow through in action. Essentially, one may claim to "care" or be willing to "listen", but all to often those very same people will turn right back around and tell the other person to "get over it" or "deal with it".

When someone tells another to "get over it", it is usually because that individual is at a loss for legitimate advice, typically because an issue or a variation of an issue proves to be unprecedented. So instead, they blurt out the first thing which comes to mind. As a result, their 'listening' and advice become counterproductive and merely worsen the stress of the individual who suffers.

Anyone could tell another person to "get over themselves", but to fail to engage with the struggle of the other is the easy way out of a complicated problem. However, many issues can never be thoroughly addressed with immediate advise. For that matter, I cannot personally recommend to you any bit of advise that has not already been mentioned by others in the past.

But whether or not I can offer you that advise, I can tell you this: The suffering is not yours alone to burden. We are all here to share the burden alongside you and to share our individual experiences to better the experiences of others.

In the end, it is better to listen and offer no advise than to listen and offer poor advise. So I am quite sorry if someone has offered you that frustrating 'advise' before. When a problem arises, it should never be ignored, no matter how dominant or miniscule it may appear.