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Originally Posted by Mr. Stranger
Once they did an experiment, where they asked a bunch of geeks who were not so good with ladies to go to a bar and get the number of a lady they like. The outcome was that all of them got a number except one. Guess why? Because he was the only one who didn't have the courage to talk to a lady and ask for her number. I don't think he was less worthy than his colleagues, but obviously he was left behind because he didn't do a simple thing, which is to say few words and ask for a number from a lady he liked. This is also true professionally. It is not about competence only, but also about how you connect and socialize with others. I don't think not being sociable is something not important.
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There is a practical cost to social anxiety. For reasons totally unrelated to this thread, I'm having a tough time managing how I feel about my social anxiety right now. That will pass, but the social anxiety seems like it's here to stay.
I've never made more than minimal progress with the anxiety itself, but I usually do pretty well with how I feel about being socially anxious. I'm nearly 60 and if I'm honest, I still wish I could be comfortable with people, but I've mostly accepted that I won't. That acceptance has helped me cope with the losses associated, and I think it's helped a little with the anxiety.
I wish I had a more positive spin on this. I do wish you well.