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Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967
I actually do have abandonment issues and am working on it in therapy. I just have to remind myself when with my friends that I see whe world through the lens of abandonment which can sometimes impact the friendships negatively. Keep working on it. You'll make friends that you are interested in and that are interested in you. Can you explain more about the bond that isn't there? Is this with everyone? Have you ever had good friends? Just trying to understand.
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Thank you. Why do you have abandonment issues?
Well, it bothers me that I feel shame somewhere inside of me I think. I think that's what I mean by the bond. I feel when relaxed, I am not a very good person. I am working on that.
I sometimes think (probably because of this) that "these people aren't good enough" or I just shy away when trying to be closer. And I am very sensitive to feeling teased, etc. I used to be teased a lot, even by my "good friends", in a non-good way. I don't want to deal with that. It is also hard for me to do chit-chat in a way that people would enjoy... or is that true? I don't know.
Example, I contacted some people of my past recently and they just have not responded... I worry if I am making a bad impression on people sometimes.