I am upset but can't bring myself to hate T. But if I did it would be because he's only my T and if he has stuff going on, he won't be thinking about me. He is more important to me than I am to him.
But OTOH maybe that's the same for everyone no matter how close the relationship. Unless you're a tiny baby you're not going to have another person thinking of you ALL the time.
I'm saying this to myself to try to reassure myself of course!!