I hate my t because.....

I thought it might be helpful for people to have a place where they can express their negative feelings towards their t.

I hate my t because she is a dried up shrivelled old bag, she is judgemental, condescending, bigoted and just a bully.

Right now.. because she is there and has boundaries: won't hug/hold me, she won't tell me she loves me (and other things good parents say to their kids), can't be there for me on a whim.. whenever I want her... that she is not mommy. Total little kid mode - with the desire to hit her like a little kid would hit.

I don't hate my t but I hate that she only checks her e-mails when she's in the office.

Is this current T or exT, for you?

I was wondering too, I hope it's exT.

It's ex t

I better not start cuz I might type for an hour.... And my lunch ends in 15 minutes.

I hate my T because....
1) He has boundaries which I HATE
2) He will not sign the adoption papers & take me home with him
3) He won't argue with me when I want him too
4) He is going on holiday for 3 weeks & isn't taking me with him
5) He will not agree to being my friend
6) I can't be with him ALL the time or even see him every day
7) He sends me off after our hour appointment
8) HE won't phone me up for a chat
9) He keeps reminding me of the transference
10) He doesn't love me

LMAO amazing post. So like me... ha!

My 'T' is pretty awesome but I am, however, super annoyed with her because she called me out on this recent instance in which I was intentionally cruel to somebody.

She thinks this person is looking for mentor and I should have been more professional in declining to be that person.

This person isn't looking for a mentor. He's looking for a proverbial hug and is too big of a ***** to ask for it. Either that or he's trying to make me feel guilty about how things aren't going as well for him as they are me.

Did I mention this is all I've thought about since she called me about it in response to an email I forwarded to her AND my next session isn't until next Tuesday?

I adore T but I hate that shelves and is now unavailable on days she is not on hee office. Before of I was really struggling I could email her and on a couple of occasion she saw me on one her non office days. Now, not only is she not frequently available to email or free talk on the phone during the hard times she is only available on scheduled days

Hate my T because he's abandoned me

Wish I had all my old texts. The one where he sent "I won't abandon you".I'd send it to him 500 times right now

Yes! So true!

Although I genuinely hate mine right now. He's a cold heartless piece of crap who is trying to get rid of me. OMG I'm so mad!

I don't hate my T at all, but I hate the reality of the therapeutic relationship! I hate that T and I can't be friends! I hate that she refuses to tell me her partner's last name or show me a photo of him! I hate that I can't know more about her life! I hate that I'm her job! I hate that she isn't "that person" who will meet all of my unmet needs! I hate that hourly sessions seem like 5 minutes and that I always want more!

I am upset but can't bring myself to hate T. But if I did it would be because he's only my T and if he has stuff going on, he won't be thinking about me. He is more important to me than I am to him.
But OTOH maybe that's the same for everyone no matter how close the relationship. Unless you're a tiny baby you're not going to have another person thinking of you ALL the time.
I'm saying this to myself to try to reassure myself of course!!

Saw long term t for the first time in at least two years. Session was fine until the end. I came back to visit my family and was shocked this week to see my mom in a dementia like state. I'm pissed at my family's lack of a heads up and secrecy. I am in crisis.

I told long term t (of 25 years) that I know I can't do therapy with him out of state but I don't want to lose him from my life. I asked how can I do that? He said we might be able to say hi by phone for 2-5 minutes once in a while. I asked how do we set that up and can one happen soon. He was evasive and mostly silent. I left feeling devastated

I hate you long term t because you lied that I ever mattered.

I'm hating my current T

- because he cares
- because he knows how to reach me
- because he knows how to get past my defenses
- because he doesn't let me destroy myself
- because I'm deeply attached to him and that's scary as hell

When and how did this happen so sorry

...Because he is a smart *** that sees straight through my well practiced rhetoric and spiel that I use to successfully get rid of every other T and Pdoc I have ever seen.

I hate him because he did not take me on vacation with him. I hate him because he's quitting all insurance panels in 2018. I hate him for abandoning me.

Dang it, I was okay before I started typing.

He didn't technically abandon me but that's the level of hurt I feel. He took away out of session contact

Sorry to hear that. I would be devastated too. Is it temporary or open to future negotiating?

Are you ok now? :hug;