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Originally Posted by daisydid
I read an article once that kind of relates to this. I think the way you approach asking H for things is what sets you up for the pattern to repeat. Don't think about asking H for a favor or something for you. You two are a team, and in order for the team to work, he needs to participate. So instead of "could you do X for me," why not "X needs to be done. Can you take care of that?"
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Hm, that's a good thought. (And I bet both H and MC would like it, because they both like sports metaphors.)
But that does fit into the fact that I tend to think of myself as inferior in the relationship since I make less money as a freelancer since having our daughter (and with H getting a promotion). And H does occasionally sort of throw that in my face, while at the same time complaining we don't have enough money. And then when I take on extra work, he says I'm doing too much. It's like I can't win...
Plus I still feel guilty about the huge mistake I made a year and a half ago, even though H has said he's forgiven me. So maybe I don't feel like I deserve some stuff...