Oh this is SO hard. It took me almost 3 years to begin to trust Tweedledum. I never "trusted" Disaster 2...but I was "comfortable" with her. I'm also comfortable with T C but there's no trust there...yet. I'm hoping it takes me less than 3 years.

Disaster 2 DOES need serious help. She goes to therapy off and on (her T is in the same practice as my T ) and has been diagnosed twice with bipolar but she refuses that diagnosis. She will only "agree" to an MDD dx. She really needs to be in therapy regularly and/or spend some time on an inpatient ward. The investigator that's assigned to the case has told me that she's quite sure the disaster is in love with me. She has told me to take precautions. (She and T C both know that the disaster stalks me.) Also, she IS under supervision. She's not licensed yet! The state opened a case on her supervisor too. It's a stressful mess.

Thanks for your great words and insights!