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Originally Posted by Calilady
Yes, straight male therapist. 3 sessions in, now.
I told him I like feminine women (as am I). He said he didn't understand the couples who came in for therapy and one was more butch while the other was femme. He said he kinda thinks "Why don't they just go for guys?"
Then he asked if I had watched Atomic Blonde. I asked him if that was the movie with Charlize Theron. He said yes and that it had a scene I might be interested in. That the two characters are both femme but "kick-***." He then said, "Yeah and there's a real hot lesbian scene in there. Well, I thought it was pretty hot." I replied that I had heard of something like that appearing in the movie. Then I wondered if he should be telling me this.
I just left the last T who told me some boundary crossing stuff. Then he said that.
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The question "why don't they just go for guys?" Demonstrates such a total and abject ignorance of LGBT issues tbat it boggles my mind. He doesn't sound like he understands lesbian issues even remotely. I like soft butch women for a complex number of reasons, among them attraction to people confident enough to flaunt gender norms, a love of the interplay between a particularoutward display contrasted with inner femininity, etc.
What I am definitely NOT attracted to is men. I like a butch appearance with female characteristics/body parts ( softer skin, different hair, different shape, even the bone structure of men and women are different). Being butch and being masculine are not equivalent and the fact that he does not know that suggests that he us not equipped to counsel really anyone. But definitely not a gay woman.