Speaking for myself... I come here, in part, to vent... and sometimes that involves being 'disrespectful' towards my therapist. Sometimes that's because my stuff is triggering my anger, sometimes it's because he's properly being an arse.

I don't believe that any therapist deserves our respect by default... It should be earned and it should go both ways. For a lot of people here that is not the case... I don't feel like it's the case for me right now either.

I'm surprised that it's hard for you to understand, to be honest. Therapy inevitably stirs up a lot of feelings and they're not all going to be rosy and lovely. Anyway, I hope this has helped you.