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Originally Posted by Crypts_Of_The_Mind
Do you think it's the fear of change... from having to struggle for what you want to actually seeing it come together? I don't think you wasted anything, you learned life lessons from your past - that makes it invaluable time spent. Life is a constant learning experience, we each learn differently and at different speeds. Just because you are "behind" in one area (socializing), doesn't mean anything. You Excel in many other areas others are lacking in (knowledge, will power, sense of "self", etc). We all have things we need to work on, and things we are good at. You know what you need to work on. That's an advantage. Some people have to have it pointed out to them and even then prefer not to see it. As far as I'm concerned, you've done well for yourself and still are. Keep up the good work and stop being so hard on yourself!
*hugs*
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Thanks.
I've actually fairly recently developed my own theory to explain some of my behaviors and thoughts.
I've mentioned that I'm an INTJ. INTJs are notorious for having to think about and plan things that they do. I think that part of the reason why I think the way I do about me not deserving love and what not is due to my goal oriented nature. I need something to drive me to achieve what I want out of life and what better way to do that then to have yourself convinced that you are going to have to fight for and earn things like love, acceptance, happiness, ETC. After all, necessity is the first cousin of invention, yes?
Of course, I could be wrong or I could be overthinking things again, but it is a thought.