That does seem to be quite confusing behaviour. Not really what a T would do normally. I feel something is up with this T. Do you feel it's in some ways a bit like your Ex T , like it's still abuse couched as care ? It's not overt with this T , but Ex T thought she cared in some way , albeit it twisted. I feel a bit blunt saying it like that - I know you're very attached to these T's Mona , but truly people need a stable T.