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Originally Posted by scorpiosis37
You seem to be WAY too focused on appearance and don't seem to recognize that appearance is only a very small part of attraction. If the primary reason you are interested in this woman is the way she looks, that would probably be very off-putting to her. Women want to be appreciated for their intelligence, personality, and positive attributes-- not just a superficial "you're hot." And if you think women would like you just for your appaearance and money, you're off base. Women are not that shallow. It seems that your thinking is very distorted. It may be more helpful for you to invest in talking to a therapist so you can see if your OCD and distorted thinking are getting in the way of healthy functioning.
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More like I'm far more focused on myself than other people.
It's not that I am not interested in a woman's personality; it's more of the fact that I find attractive women intimidating due to my own insecurities. Because of this, I look for ways to compensate for my weaknesses and shortcomings as a person. I then use my entrepreneurial goals and my desire for self improvement to further make myself out to be both more appealing to other people and stronger as a person (or at least that's what I'm trying to do).
I don't consider my way of thinking distorted in any way nor do I think that I'm the problem. If anything, I am stronger and better than most people because I am striving to be better. I have little use for a therapist and spending years dealing with their B.S when all I need are my own methods and a bit of money and I will be fine.
I'm done thinking like a loser; it is time to take what I want out of life via any means necessary. I will ask her for the coffee whenever I see her next and if she declines I will simply take it as a sign that I need to further improve myself and then move on to somebody else.