If a girl is warm and friendly to you, does that mean she is into you?

Ok this is a rather stupid question since I still kind of suck with people, but if a girl is warm and friendly towards you every time she sees you, does that mean that she likes you?

Let me explain why I'm asking such an off the wall question: there is this girl that was in my English class this summer. I was quiet and rather awkward for the first 4 weeks or so but started warming up to the class just a bit towards the end of it. Towards the last couple of weeks of class or so, this girl was nice to me every time she saw me. We haven't talked a whole lot but she seems like a genuinely nice person and always waves at me and approaches me when she sees me outside of class. Anyways, I was at my student job today and I found her and she approached me and started inquiring about my job and started showing me her class schedule. She started asking me what classes I'm in for the Fall. When I said that I'm not in any of her classes, she seemed like she wanted to be in a class with me. I haven't seen her quite like this with any other male in the class. She mostly hangs out with females and I've only seen her with one other guy in a group of 4 or 5 people once.

Do you think that she might have a thing for me or is she just one of those types of people that likes to talk and be friendly with people?

Well, there is obviously something about you that she feels able to approach you. Sounds like she is a nice person and she likes you. How about asking her how she feels about you?

It's often hard to tell. It sounds like she likes you. Maybe ask her go to the student union for a soda or such to see if she's just being friendly. One suggestion, anyway.

Yes, she does like you, but it's not clear how much, and maybe she doesn't know either. Think of it like a spectrum of experience. So at the beginning, it's just social chat whenever you meet. Then one of you has to ask if you want to get coffee/ lunch or whatever. And just go from there. It may be that it just stops there and you end up as friends who are sociable but with whom there's no romantic element. I've had a male friend about the same age as me (50s) for many years. He started out as my boss and I've worked with or for him in 4 different jobs over the years. He is very happily married with a gorgeous wife and 2 beautiful children. I've never thought about him in a romantic way, and I'm sure he never has me either. But he's just a really nice guy. We're really good friends. We live over 300 miles from each other so we only physically meet for work related reasons.

It's hard to look for signals as to when a friendship moves into different territory if you suck with people (!). So just take it slowly and gently. Let her do the talking. Maybe think about telling her that you're better with tech than people, and would welcome her advice on people related stuff. I know it's hard, but just relax and enjoy the experience!

I agree with Travelinglady. That's one good way to find out.

In general, no, a girl being nice and friendly toward you does not mean she has a romantic interest in you. Guys often think that it does, which can make it uncomfortable for women to even be friendly without fear of being hit on. Of course, there's a small chance the girl could be open to something romantic, but there is no evidence of that yet. Just treat her as a friend and see how it goes. But don't go in expecting anything more.

Being friendly might not mean having romantic interest. I talk to anyone about anything amd am not shy. I am not flirty though, just friendly. There have been times men assumed it means more because I am warm and friendly. It doesn't. But you don't know about this girl, so why not be friends and see where it goes? Hang out more and then you'll see if there is more to it. It will reveal itself

I am sorry to say no. I have this particular problem. It is my "act" to be friendly and approachable. And far too often people confuse this for flirting. Or rather I confuse flirting with being friendly and approachable. But there is always one good way to find out what the intent is... just "make a move". Just ask in a very laid back way if she would like to do something outside the regular interaction. It doesn't have to be major. For example say your going to Starbucks and would she like something ... or like to come with you. Even if she comes that doesn't mean she is into you but it probably will give her the heads up.. and if she backs off then, they you probably know what your dealing with.

Yes! She is being warm and friendly. Be warm and friendly back and see what develops. Her like for you may be only as a friend, but who knows, give friendship a whirl and see what happens.

Next step: You start talking to her and ask her out to lunch of something.

What's important is how you feel inside.
She could be friendly, she could be interested beyond that. But hypothetically if you don't feel anything, it doesn't matter.

How interested are you in her?

If interested, ask her to have coffee or lunch with you and see how it goes.

How interested are you in her?

If interested, ask her to have coffee or lunch with you and see how it goes.

Thanks Bill3, I like this answer.

As for the original poster's question my answer is "no". I am extremely outgoing and welcoming to everyone - even to strangers I pass on the street. This is no indication I am anything other than welcoming and friendly.

Have you observed her interactions with other people? Is she generally gregarious and friendly?

This is definitely a start however and I would take advantage of it. Accept and cultivate a friendship. Go for coffee as suggested above. This might lead to something more.

I might try to take her out for a coffee or something whemever I see her next.

I still don't see how I'm good enough for somebody that attractive though. I need to keep working on improving myself so that I can become good enough for beautiful ladies one day.

I hope that you do ask her for coffee. Then you both get the chance to decide whether or not there might be mutual interest.

Consider that your personality is more attractive than looks and that she could be choosing you for who you are. And also consider that even if right now she isn't attracted to you a good personality can make guys more attractive. I am sure you have seen guys that your like, how did get with her?

But good advice to just take it from a friendship perspective and keep taking little steps and if she goes with, you will know.

I don't know if she is interested in you, but if you do ask her for coffee, try not to insult this one if she responds in a sensible but not immediately favourable manner.

I can't make any promises with this but I will try.

Not that it matters though. I will have money and looks faster than one might think. I will be ripped within a few months, thanks in part to all of the physical labor I've been doing lately and the fact that I've been running and hitting up the gym. I will also have plenty of money in the upcoming months. Since I don't have to pay rent for another couple of months and I'm making over $400 more a month than my living expenses would be if I was paying rent and I'm getting a few grand next month on top of that, I will invest more time and energy into my dropshipping side business. If all goes according to plan, I should be making upwards to 6 figures within the next year.

Once that happens, If I can't get over my rather socially awkward personality and other social issues by then, I should easily be able to compensate for them with money and looks. I already have an attractive face; put a ripped body and lots of money with that and any girl that would reject that would be a fool and I don't socialize with fools.

She might like your 'social awkwardness,' as you put it. You sound like a genuine honest guy which is what females like. I like Bill's idea, go for a coffee somewhere, be you and see where that leads.

I want to man I just don't think I'm good enough for a girl that pretty right now.

I've been obsessing with self improvement a lot lately. I want to be good enough; both mentally and physically for other people. I want to be the best version of myself that is physically possible or otherwise I don't think I'm good enough.

For the past couple of years, I have done nothing but fight and struggle just to get to the point that I'm at now. Not even a year ago, I was homeless. I went from a mentally unstable homeless person who couldn't hold down a job to what I am now because of my obsessions. Despite all that I've achieved, I still don't believe that I'm good enough for people.

My obsessions are so extreme now that I am planning on dropping hundreds of dollars on training, resources, and even a coach to help me become the best possible version of myself. Only when I'm as close to perfection as humanly possible will I be good enough to have a beautiful woman love me and good friends and what not. Nothing less will do.

I think your biggest problem lie in self esteem.

You already are "good enough". We can all use improvement. When you stop searching for ways to improve yourself is when you stop caring. The fact that you do want to improve shows you care, but it doesn't mean you aren't already "good enough". She may be attracted to the fact she sees you making so many self improvements and still forging ahead to work on making it in school as well as financially too. I don't know how you look, but I do know a bit about your personality, and I do think there are a variety of reasons she may be attracted to you. She may, however, just want to be friends, or possibly looking to "test the waters" and see how things go. The only way to figure things out though is to do things like others have suggested - ask her to coffee, or lunch, or on a picnic ... somewhere public and informal but still not "usual" for the two of you. That way she doesn't feel threatened or uncomfortable in any way but the two of you can still get to know each other better. When you are with her, let the conversation flow easy. If you feel yourself getting irritated at all, switch topic, without any snide or rude remarks while doing so. Try to keep the conversation light and fun at least at first if at all possible.

It doesn't necessarily mean she's into you. As a young woman I'm warm and friendly to others, but I don't mean anything sexual by it.
However, it could mean she "may" be into you. Try chatting with her a little more and see where it leads. If she's giving you a ton of huge signals that she likes you, then ask her out for coffee

Not necessarily. I would say it depends. Some girls are just nice to people in general. However, if she is being extra nice to you for no apparent reason, then it is likely she is interested.

Not all girls will act the same way when they are interested in a guy. Some girls are very open and aggressive, some girls are shy and will try to not show it at all. There was this girl I met at the gym. I actually posted about her on here a while back. For a while, she would actually pass by me and not even say hi. People on here said "of course she is not interested, if she was she would not be ignoring you!" But then as I talked to her a few more times, her behavior changed completely and she started being very friendly. And then she started showing very obvious signs that she is interested. Right now I am almost 100% sure she is interested(but I realized it wouldn't work out with her so I am not pursuing anything). At first the reason she was ignoring me was probably because I was doing the same thing! I myself often feel awkward about approaching girls I like because it just doesn't feel "appropriate" at the time. Many girls shy away from guys they like for the exact same reason.

Moral of the story: you cannot really know whether or not a girl is interested based on the way she acts.

You seem to be WAY too focused on appearance and don't seem to recognize that appearance is only a very small part of attraction. If the primary reason you are interested in this woman is the way she looks, that would probably be very off-putting to her. Women want to be appreciated for their intelligence, personality, and positive attributes-- not just a superficial "you're hot." And if you think women would like you just for your appaearance and money, you're off base. Women are not that shallow. It seems that your thinking is very distorted. It may be more helpful for you to invest in talking to a therapist so you can see if your OCD and distorted thinking are getting in the way of healthy functioning.

Curious, how did you come to the conclusion Darkness has OCD?

I consider myself a pretty good friend of his n he has never mentioned that dx to me. I checked both this thread n his profile, n don't see it there either. Did he tell you this for fact, or are you making a dx yourself?