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Originally Posted by SoupDragon
Yes I guess there are pros and cons to short term versus long term therapy. I initially sought short term, but it sort of evolved as things unravelled. I'm not sure I would be where I am now, without long term therapy, but yes, as you say, it does feel like losing a friend (of 7 years). But the realisation of that has already changed the dynamic, I've taken a huge step back. I think if I need top ups in the future, I'll find a different T.
Do you feel it is helping you with the changes in your T's? I know I had develop trust in order to progress and that took a long time for me.
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No I think the short term therapy does more harm and wastes a lot of time. At least in my case. Harm by, like what you said, not ever really being able to build that therapeutic relationship, which seems to be the Golden Rule of therapy. I can tell you are feeling the abandonment and distrust for this T because you are hurt. I do the same thing. If feel hurt by someone I build the walls and block them out from then on. Doesn't matter if they meant to hurt me, I felt that they hurt me. Did they mean to? Is it something so bad I have to block them out of my life? Am I seeing their side of the situation, or just mine?
Trust is hard for us and any T worth their weight knows that. You seem to care about this T. You think maybe you could let down the walls enough to hear his/her side and what the plans are moving forward?
