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Originally Posted by SC2009
What kind of woman dates a man who knowingly abandons his (child)ren because he didn't want them with the other person he knocked up while dating a former partner? (To keep the conversation interesting, let's say he was with his former partner AND wanted kids..Then changed his mind once the deed was done, which apparently is commonplace...)
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It is? commonplace? No. You're gonna hear more about the situations where a male is an *** than you are about males that are good partners and stick around because being a good man and doing the right thing isn't "NEWS"... it's the way it should be. It may seem like commonplace because the most negative events are the ones talked about most.
There is no general answer to your question as to what type of person dates someone of the other gender who is knowingly a bad choice, of any kind. but it happens. Sometimes they are in denial because the bad partner is charismatic, and manipulative. Other times they may not actually know these things until they are already hooked. Too many variables there to define this. Not a single one of us is the same even in spite of the fact that there are a lot of similarities in our situations.
If there's a specific person in mind and situation, then maybe there are answers to why. As it is... what ifs, and other such hypothetical questions don't really gain any insight into reality.
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(I'd ask this from a gender neutral standpoint, but women are left making the ultimate decision(s) and sacrifice(s) irrespective of what the male wants in this situation.)
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"women are left making the ultimate..." no. my ex left 2 sons with me for 4 yrs to live with someone else in an entirely different state so yes, you can ask this from a gende neutral position because it really does happen.
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Is it the norm now to completely haul off when faced with "the consequences"? Do men normally regret this later in life? Anyone here ever been in this situation or been the man to leave?
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No it's not the norm, as I said above. But again, it IS the situations you hear about. People don't come to this site or any other relationship/mi site to talk about how normal and good their life and relationships are, they come for answers to problems so all you see is the bad ones.
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I read in the news all the time of women taking off and abandoning their children, too. I'd really like to hear about their counter parts behavior however..
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as I said my ex left the state for 4 or so years and had nothing to do with her two boys that entire time.