What kind of..

What kind of woman dates a man who knowingly abandons his (child)ren because he didn't want them with the other person he knocked up while dating a former partner? (To keep the conversation interesting, let's say he was with his former partner AND wanted kids..Then changed his mind once the deed was done, which apparently is commonplace...)

(I'd ask this from a gender neutral standpoint, but women are left making the ultimate decision(s) and sacrifice(s) irrespective of what the male wants in this situation.)

Is it the norm now to completely haul off when faced with "the consequences"? Do men normally regret this later in life? Anyone here ever been in this situation or been the man to leave?

I read in the news all the time of women taking off and abandoning their children, too. I'd really like to hear about their counter parts behavior however..

I would say the kind of woman who does that either has very low self esteem or no conscience.

Even a wild dog wouldn't abandon her own pups. It's against all laws of nature.

It is? commonplace? No. You're gonna hear more about the situations where a male is an *** than you are about males that are good partners and stick around because being a good man and doing the right thing isn't "NEWS"... it's the way it should be. It may seem like commonplace because the most negative events are the ones talked about most.

There is no general answer to your question as to what type of person dates someone of the other gender who is knowingly a bad choice, of any kind. but it happens. Sometimes they are in denial because the bad partner is charismatic, and manipulative. Other times they may not actually know these things until they are already hooked. Too many variables there to define this. Not a single one of us is the same even in spite of the fact that there are a lot of similarities in our situations.

If there's a specific person in mind and situation, then maybe there are answers to why. As it is... what ifs, and other such hypothetical questions don't really gain any insight into reality.

"women are left making the ultimate..." no. my ex left 2 sons with me for 4 yrs to live with someone else in an entirely different state so yes, you can ask this from a gende neutral position because it really does happen.

No it's not the norm, as I said above. But again, it IS the situations you hear about. People don't come to this site or any other relationship/mi site to talk about how normal and good their life and relationships are, they come for answers to problems so all you see is the bad ones.

as I said my ex left the state for 4 or so years and had nothing to do with her two boys that entire time.

[QUOTE=s4ndm4n2006;5832747]It is? commonplace? No. You're gonna hear more about the situations where a male is an *** than you are about males that are good partners and stick around because being a good man and doing the right thing isn't "NEWS"... it's the way it should be.

The operative word here is "should". It is commonplace because, in my generation, men that are close in my age, behave in this manner and they think it is the right thing to do. Because the right thing to do for them is finding the "girl of their dreams" to settle down with. Anyone who does not fit this ideology is passed on, irrespective of the circumstances. The insane part of this is that this ideology can change any time. It IS commonplace that people ARE replaceable. Our generation, quite frankly, doesn't know how to FIX things the way our grandparents did in the early and mid 1900's. It would be nice to meet a man who defies this oddity.

""women are left making the ultimate..." no. my ex left 2 sons with me for 4 yrs to live with someone else in an entirely different state so yes, you can ask this from a gender neutral position because it really does happen.""

I'm referring to women making the decision to abort, adopt or deliver their baby when the man who got them pregnant runs off and decides to have no contact so that she cannot even discuss with him the options and what he wants or doesn't want. Clearly in this reference, his behavior shows he doesn't want the child and wants nothing to do with decision making or her. (Which is not only irresponsible, it's crazy.)

(Also, Sorry to hear of your situation. Must be hard!)