Thing is, I am a 'fixer', if my friends or family need help, advice, a sounding board an UNBIASED opinion then they often come to me.
I am also loyal to a fault.
However if someone I hardly know responds to the fairly mundane greeting by saying they are down, I am afraid I am likely to assume that person will be a drain on my emotions on the long term. So tend to back off.
Your immediately being pushed to enquire as to the cause of them feeling down.And I know there are days when I am NOT the person to talk to if you're feeling sensitive.


Or that the individual doesn't take care in who they share their stuff with. And that unnerves me.

I am in no way saying we should bottle everything up, I am saying i know plenty of worthwhile people, who are intelligent, funny engaging, but they are not people I want to off load on. I like the way they treat me as I am, I don't want them to feel pity or sorry fore or obligated.

I have people I can share with if needs be, I quite enjoy not having my issues taint every aspect of my life.

Anyway just another bunch of drivel from my perspective.
All the best.