First off I think there are a few different "categories" this could fall into. So if this isn't the right place I'm sorry.

What do you do when you and your spouse grieve in exactly opposite ways? My wife wants to be with me & not be alone when she grieves. Me I want to be left alone and not even be around anyone including my wife. I am not looking for a "she's wrong and you're right". I want to know how the best way to deal with this is? I should support her and be there for her when she needs me, but what about when I need to grieve as well?