Thread: Mom's needs
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Old Oct 16, 2017, 02:16 AM
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My mom misses talking with me, she feels hurt and mad because we dont "talk" even if we live together... i just dont know what to say! Or maybe im too absorbed by myself, my feelings, thoughts, duties and life.


My T said what she really wants is a connection but i dont know how to give it to her, and honestly im not sure i want to give it to her. Not sure why talking with her is so difficult...


I just feel annoyed by her and whatever she says. Maybe its because i need my independence, i dont know... i REALLY dont want to hurt her or to make her feel abandoned, but even this, her needing me, annoys me and pushes me away.


I dont know how to solve this. It feels like i have to choose between her needs and mine...
It can be really hurtful when someone is trying to get something from you that you aren't trying to give. That makes it feel like your wishes are not being respected, and I mean, anyone would find that uncomfortable and it might make them feel unimportant to the other person, and that's not good at all.