I've thought about counseling, but we are pretty good at communicating most times. We've been married going on 14 years. I give him encouragement, and support to try and find what it causing his hang ups, whether work, less time for himself, etc. I also explain to him what his absence of touch does to me. I am a very physical person, and if don't have that closeness, that connection, whether sex, or cuddling, or kissing, or whatever, then it really doesn't matter what his"I love you" means. Show me your love, don't tell me your love. He says he will, he will try, but it doesn't change. If I don't initiate anything, there is no physical connection. We do love each other, but lately (years) I feel more like a household partner for chores, cooking, taking care of the kids. We've had "dates", but only dinner and no "dancing"