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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
There was a time when the sentiment was "children are to be seen and not heard" and that way of thinking resulted in a lot of children that grew up with low self esteem and not understanding the benefits from actually engaging and nurturing children. Most will struggle when it comes to talking about these challenges and tend to even feel a deep shame when it comes to talking about what they experienced growing up in their family. For many, they were actually raised to experience "shame" for having their own needs and feelings. The theme was often "do what you are told and don't ask questions", in other words OBEY.
Often children were raised to SERVICE rather than be allowed to actually develop their own identity.
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Thank you so much for writing these words Open Eyes. I can relate, especially to the parts quoted above. This was my 'normal', so to hear / read it reframed as abusive is really difficult for me to accept. But struggling with the effects of being brought up like this and now paying the price in terms of lack of self-esteem, lack of self confidence, not really knowing who I am, having no trust in others or self belief - I am at last starting to understand a little about what is driving the desire to end my life.
Thank you for the clarity.