Well, when someone tells you over and over again that they're going to get a job ASAP to pay you back the money they owe you, but don't do it after a whole year and thousands of dollars spent, that he owes me, well then no motivation to work becomes a BIG PROBLEM. He allowed me to carry the expense of everything, including our long distance visits AND me supporting him the whole time we lived together, while he STILL didn't find and obtain work. He is a BUM. So yes, no ambition and no motivation ARE a problem, at least with us it was. He probably needs someone who doesn't care if he doesn't work, or someone on disability. I DO have normal standards. I also expected him to pay me back a lot of the money he owed me, which he promised he would and never did! I am no more powerful than anyone else, but I am successful in my career, I am ambitious and strive for better always, and I know what i want.