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Originally Posted by seesaw
He sounds like he is manipulating and playing you. He can abuse you when he's hypomanic but then doesn't have to answer for it when he's normal because you'll accept his excuse that he doesn't remember and allow him to treat you badly again.
He may be bipolar but that's no excuse for abuse. I'm not saying to give up entirely, but maybe it would be better to accept his offer of friendship until he can get stabilized so you aren't suffering so much abuse at his hands. Because the effects of that abuse will remain for a while.
Is he on any medications?
Seesaw
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No he's not manipulating,trust me he's not. I've been dealing this for a whole yr to know the difference already. He literally couldn't remember those 5 months because that other side was running a mock most of time. He's completely same person I knew before he ended in hospital. Same wonderful nice loving person :" ❤ he literally cries and is completely heartbroken every time when he finds out that that ******* did while he was off :'( ...but when he switches...it's like you're talking about completely different person here, and I think you are because he told me he can't remember anything when the "other one" is on..It's something like schizophrenia only you have only 2 personalities and not many.
We're talking about someone that's complete opposite here. He actually told me a week ago because we've been talking about it,that his doctor told him when a good person ends up with bipolar,that person's switch which is actually not the real person,is usually complete opposite...a completely heartless evil person because he hates himself, it has no emotions,it actually wants to destroy everything that emotionally connects him to anything good...It's like ying and yang...only this opposite side decided me as his prime victim here because I'm main reason why the real him has emotions and feels good
it wants to nulify and destroy all emotions and connections that my real lover has for me....that's why I can't let him.
Allowing him this breakup would mean allowing him to have all the power,and also...hypomanias can last for months...what if that opposite dark side would end up cheating on me-because I gave him means and freedom to do so,and then when the real him switches back he'd see what that horrible ******* did...he'd never forgive himself or get over that...what then???!
You can't allow someone in such state of mind power to do anything that person wants...because such person enjoys such power and control over ppl,it feeds that personality...if you don't stop this situation, whole hell will break loose :/
That's why I can't say yes to him and allow him to have control...no matter how horrible and painful it is