Anger is one of the most difficult emotions for me to have to deal with.I have it eating away at me and whoever has angered me I cannot let it go.I go over and over what they did to upset me and wrong me and I want them to put it right but when they play dumb and act like they are not bothered that they have irritated,frustrated and let me down, when I feel like they have deliberately mugged me off and taken advantage that is when I lose it and have to let rip cursing expletives and shouting at them.I want to rip their smug faces off.

today three different sets of people and circumstances made me feel like this.It began when I got home at 6pm and continued until now 9pm.I am just beginning to calm down and let it all go...I will put it down to a bad day and try to relax and overlook what they did to me.I find it hard to deal with anger positively.

Does anyone have any advice on how to turn a negative emotion like anger into a positive experience....it eats me up and a lot of it although directed at the people that cause my anger is self hatred.I feel like a stupid person to be the victim of these people who have taken advantage and I hate myself for it,why can't I see this predator coming and stop them using me I say to myself.....I end up feeling like a victim and all I have againt them is this anger and bad feelings.

When I was being bullied and controlled by my family and I got angry they overpowered me back with their own anger and they made me feel I didn't count and that my feelings would never matter no matter how angry I got.The anger intensified and was cancelled out cos no one listened and no one cared they could still tell me what to do and bully me into doing it....I'd throw a drinking mug against the wall to get rid of the anger or fisticuff with my sister but at the end of the day whatever it was I got angry about I still didn't have my feelings about it acknowledged and honoured.I still had to do what I didn't want to and had got angry about...so being angry was never a positive experience for me.

But if anyone has experience of dealing with anger that is helpful I would like to hear it.