I am very ANGRY!!!!AGAIN!!!!

Anger is one of the most difficult emotions for me to have to deal with.I have it eating away at me and whoever has angered me I cannot let it go.I go over and over what they did to upset me and wrong me and I want them to put it right but when they play dumb and act like they are not bothered that they have irritated,frustrated and let me down, when I feel like they have deliberately mugged me off and taken advantage that is when I lose it and have to let rip cursing expletives and shouting at them.I want to rip their smug faces off.

today three different sets of people and circumstances made me feel like this.It began when I got home at 6pm and continued until now 9pm.I am just beginning to calm down and let it all go...I will put it down to a bad day and try to relax and overlook what they did to me.I find it hard to deal with anger positively.

Does anyone have any advice on how to turn a negative emotion like anger into a positive experience....it eats me up and a lot of it although directed at the people that cause my anger is self hatred.I feel like a stupid person to be the victim of these people who have taken advantage and I hate myself for it,why can't I see this predator coming and stop them using me I say to myself.....I end up feeling like a victim and all I have againt them is this anger and bad feelings.

When I was being bullied and controlled by my family and I got angry they overpowered me back with their own anger and they made me feel I didn't count and that my feelings would never matter no matter how angry I got.The anger intensified and was cancelled out cos no one listened and no one cared they could still tell me what to do and bully me into doing it....I'd throw a drinking mug against the wall to get rid of the anger or fisticuff with my sister but at the end of the day whatever it was I got angry about I still didn't have my feelings about it acknowledged and honoured.I still had to do what I didn't want to and had got angry about...so being angry was never a positive experience for me.

But if anyone has experience of dealing with anger that is helpful I would like to hear it.

Anger is something I struggle with a lot. The only things that are helpful to me are hard physical work & compassionate abiding. Beyond that, at least for me, it just comes down to waiting it out until the feeling subsides.

I have trouble with anger too. It gets worse when I'm in an argument. The best thing I do is distract myself. Anger isn't bad but when it gets too much when it comes to a point when you're hitting things then yeah you'd need to calm down. I've been at that point and I realise it's not worth it afterwards. I felt guilt because I destroyed stuff. The way I dealt with my anger is trying to understand when it gets too much and then I tell myself to time out and I need to go somewhere else. My mum annoys me. It's frustrating because she puts the blame on me, calls me weird and then when I cry or shout, she tells me to calm down. Well, she started on me in the first place. She's never going to change so I thought to myself to either calmly be positive to her or tell her how I feel. If that doesn't work, I just go away from her and try to calm down. It's not worth it. It's hard for me too because I'm struggling with it. I hope everything is okay

I'm also really angry right now. I'm afraid someone's going to try and control me and it freaks me out and I just get so angry.

Anger is positive...it lets you know that something is wrong and needs to be addressed; if you fear confronting the person who you feel anger towards (it can be done in a good way, such as....when you did/said.....xyz it made me feel.....most often an abuser will deny it, but you have stood up for yourself; it is difficult and takes practice....you can also write down your anger and thoughts to the abuser. It is a way to take your power back. Bullies/abusers are all the same; they are excuciatingly insecure and feel the need to abuse others.

No one can control you. Don't argue...simply state how you feel....walk away. yu cannot win an argument with an abuser; they enjoy it and want you to keep arguing and explaining yourself..they are emotional vampires....and need you to continually explain yourself.

Anger is a valid emotion. When people mistreat us, we need to get angry. If we just sit there and allow ourselves to be a victim, then we will always be a victim. We need to show others that they cannot abuse us.

I've recently started studying Mindfulness,which has made
inroads towards reducing anger/criticism/resentment at
myself and others. I emphasise 'reducing',not cured. Still,
hope to get better as skills increase;this is only thing I've
found that helps,put it into search box and read up on it.
Blessings,
BLUEDOVE