Don't worry about being dark... say it like it is -- we all do on here!

Yes, being assertive about what you want and need is very important in life. I am working on being better about this myself!

I think -- to be honest -- that you would do best to cut all contact and all sex with him. And to be done with him... but I realize that may be a big step for you, but something to seriously consider at this stage.

((((Hugs)))))))