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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
The problem with that is that they are too old and frail now to meet me someplace like that. If I asked my dad to do that he may try only to face my sister's wrath and really realize how he is imprisoned and powerless. Often an elderly person that struggles to get around doesn't realize they are very limited in being able to go anywhere, they think about it UNTIL they want to and find out they can't. Often an elderly person like that will say, "we will have to get together and go for lunch somewhere" not realizing that can no longer happen. My sister would not let me do that. They are both unstable and could fall and get hurt. That is what happened to my mother where she fell and broke her wrist trying to break her fall. Dementia can take place in the body where the brain struggles to control the body to balance and walk normally, often the person begins to shuffle their feet at first. They struggle to make it to go to the bathroom so they often wet themselves or poop in their pants. Both my parents have to wear adult type diapers that can be torn off of them easily.
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what about contacting adult protective services your self. they will investigate your side even show up unannounced to see for their self what is going on. then they will remove your sister as your parents care taker and assign a a department of social services caseworker to your parents who will meet with your parents you, your sister and brother and as a team decide what is best for your parents. they can do this in such a way as to not cause your parents harm or stress even prosecute your sister for things like elder abuse, abuse of a mentally or physically challenged person, they can do so much for you, your parents without even your parents knowing its happening if thats best for your parents. your parents wont even have to go to court or anythnig they do not want to do. they will be assigned their own person to over see their best interests and in some cases are introduced to the elderly as a new friend not lawyer. your sister will not be present or have anything to do with this new friend, and your parents will be issued a protection order to prevent your sister from contact with your parents if need be to prevent her from influencing your parents. in other words Department of social services will know how to get to the truth and see to it that your parents are taken care of the way they should be...they will make sure that you have visitation and also that there is no interference. Department of Social services (sometimes called DHS) does take abuse cases of children, adults, mentally and physically challenged and the elderly very seriously in america and know how to handle special needs cases like your family has.