defending ones self. (Self-defense) is one thing, harming someone because one just gets fed up is another.

I got so fed up wirh my H & being financially trapped in the marriage, ending my life as my only way to escape was definitely tried seversl times. I was always very independent so the feeling of trapped with no escape just rubbed me the wrong way. I mean really, right after I got married he started this put downvsarcasm thing. Got so fed up since I knew I was his equal if not better that I gave him a choice. Stop or GET OUT of my life. Now that I am free, I am very cautious NEVER to end up in a situation like that ever again. I value my alone independence on my farm that I take care of myself.

That being said I am no pacifist. If it comes to a my life or theirs situation, it is going to be theirs not mine.

I definitely NEVER stick up for someone I feel holds values that hurt other people....I CONFRONT I do not defend or stick up for them.

Though I have many friends who have differing beliefs & values & we all stick together, support & help each other out when anyone needs support. The community I now live is is so different than anything I have experienced all my life.