My situation is different but thought I would offer my experience. Firat of all, I worl within the mental health field and unfortunately it isn't all that uncommon for clients to talk to T's about negative experiences with other ts. So it shouldn't be an issue.

Secondly, when I consulted with an Emdr T it waa a nightmare. In fact, I decided to not do EMDR because of her. I knew she was somebody my long term T knew from the community and had "heard a lot of good things about nd worked with a lot of complicated clients". I was Leary of giving T details other than EMDR waa not for me. We did end up going into detail. She was very supportive and offered great feedback. And said that there are good T"s and bad T's...sadly EMDR T was the later. We processed it answbenrually I consulted with another EMDR T who is wonderful