I worked full time retail hours, but for my own parents. But, even full time modest salary I made, I couldn’t have afforded my own independent life.

Then I got married and raised kids. I was very fortunate to get to stay home with them.

Now I work and can earn much more doing the job, but don’t try too hard. My h doesn’t want me to be busy and unable to be with him.

So, I will likely never need or want to try to support myself now. Since I decided to stay, I am more confident about financial security.

And yes, I am terrified of the thought of having no money or support.

I had no problems working when with my folks. I was happy and never depressed, always got to work and did great. Things might have been different, if I hadn’t married my h or not. IDK. This is just the way it played out.