While I don’t experience romantic feelings for my therapist, I do experience the type of transference you are talking about where I long to be with my therapist. I feel incredibly attached and wish she would just hold me and take me home and protect me. I’ve experienced that with several therapists now, and I think mostlylurking is right, it stems from the childhood-like experience of needing your maternal figure.

I wish I had answers to give you to help you feel better, but I sadly don’t. I just want you to know that you’re not alone in this, and that I feel your pain. It’s really good you recognize and have talked about with your T what is happening though, that sets you in the path to healing that wound.

I hope for the absolute best for you. ❤️