Your story reminds me of something a friend of mine experienced. She was divorced and got used to living her life single and then got a call from a guy she once dated and had a kind of fling with years ago. This guy began wooing her and at first she did not want to engage him. He kept wooing her and slowly began romancing her with all kinds of dreams of love and adventure. She got hooked and I noticed how she had changed like she was suddenly "high" and embracing this "idea of romance and the illusion he was pulling her into". Surely it was TRUE LOVE at last, finally she had this one last chance to have that true love she had always dreamed of.

Then he finally came to visit her and at first she was still engaged in the illusion and then he left her only to spiral down into the cold reality she had thought she had finally escaped from. I got so I set a substantial amount of time aside for her while she would talk to me on the phone and she would have to repeat so many things he had said to her in his wooing that turned out to not be REAL. I would find myself sitting on the phone with her for two to three hours and I would listen to her repeat the same things over and over again and I somehow knew she needed to do that so I never stopped her or cut her off or dismissed her. She was grieving and she just needed to go over it all until she could find her way to finally accepting the reality of this wonderful illusion he took her on that was never going to be REAL. He could think it and woo it, but he could not actually DO IT.

There are men that can be great wooers. They convince someone they LOVE them and pull that woman into such a pleasant illusion. However, that is really all it is, "an illusion" and when it comes time to facing reality, it can come cold and hard. And even be a kind of traumatic "loss" for someone who so wanted to believe in the "illusion".