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Originally Posted by unaluna
My questions would be: so do you know this guy at work? Like have you seen him around? Is he at your employment level? Does that matter to you?
Instead, you seem to have put up this big vague wall that somehow he tried to contact you in this imperfect way, and so must be banished to the netherworld.
Is the door open or is it closed? I think thats what your t is saying to you. Only instead of saying that you in particular are being extremely closed off and picky - i mean, really, all the guy did was basically say hey - your t is saying youre being a feminazi, biting this guys head off at the same time that youre swearing you want a boyfriend. I would be frustrated too. You cant have your cake and bite its head off too?
What choice does this guy have? Hes letting you know you work at the same place. If he told you thru the app, then what would you accuse him of? Guy cant win for losing. He only had two choices. He picked one. So shoot him. Sheesh.
Btw, welcome back, nice to see you again!  |
The guy is not someone I know beyond knowing his name. He sent me an email at my work address but he does NOT work with me, he merely KNEW where I work and contacted me here.
Also, I never bit his head off and don't intend to do so. Nor did I banish him in any way! I simply used the example, with my therapist, of the email at my place of employment as a downside of the e-dating world. I was using this to describe why e-dating is probably not the way forward for me. In the therapy space, my comment triggered a strange "it's-tough-out-there-for men" lecture and a "you're not open" judgment from my therapist, and I found it very jarring.
I don't think it's accurate to conclude that I'm a feminazi (why the name-calling, anyway) or that anyone is getting "shot." Sheesh right back at you. Your reply is full of invective and undeserved put-downs.