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Old Jan 30, 2018, 06:55 AM
Lolina Lolina is offline
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It's easy to be bitter about it . I guess also there's the expectation of "happy family's" it's like sold as the done thing . I also think that dysfunctional ones are a lot more common than people like to admit . For me I squared it in my brain a long time ago . In the end, I see it as , they gave me food so I didn't die of starvation and there was shelter until I was strong enough to stand up for myself . So in this area they completed their obligation fully . People can only hurt you if you allow them to , if you want something from them . Approval , friendship , understanding , compassion . Once you get to a point a switch gets turned . I can remember the day when I was 15 and I said to myself " these people will never have the opportunity to hurt me again " and I wiped them emotionally . I really meant this and my brain changed that day . Took away their power . My life is my problem and they don't get a say . That for me was the day I began to become who I am , who I was supposed to be .


I couldn't agree more with what you say. Wow at 16 you were able to understand this, you are very brave and smart. I cut most of "the bad apples" last year. I have never felt better since.

One even wrote me: "you are turning your back on people who could have given their life for you and who love you very much" with a lot of guilt messages, I just blocked her number, I blocked all those who hurt me openly and who did not have the decency to apologised. Now I feel free to live my life as I want and to be proud of myself, because there is a lot of jealousy sometimes going on, embrace completely who you are and be happy because at the end of the day its the only thing that will matter. Worrying about selfish or careless people will do no good in the long run, as soon as you can go away from them @Monkey1111.
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